“One ought, every day at least, to hear a little song, read a good poem, see a fine picture, and, if it were possible to speak a few reasonable words.” –Goethe

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My Favorite Books

Brian Doyle, in One Long River of Song, writes about visiting his wife’s apartment (before she was his wife) and finding just four novels on the shelf by her bed. He beautifully describes what those four books say about her. That essay left me contemplating what my favorite stories whisper about me. But I first had to decide what my most treasured novels actually are (and I reserve the right to alter this list at any time). In attempting to make my list as short as possible, I chose books that I’ve read multiple times, usually decades apart, and a couple that have most recently expanded and inspired me. I asked myself “why these books?” and found some commonalities. They aren’t impossible to put down, but ones that I always look forward to reading (page turners are fun, but quickly forgotten). Most of the books I chose are narrated by a mature character, who tells their own coming of age story. When I read, I look to be educated, entertained, and/or enlightened. For me the magic happens when all three align.

The Top Six:

David Copperfield (Charles Dickens)

How Green Was My Valley (Richard Llewellyn)

East of Eden (John Steinbeck)

To Kill A Mockingbird (Harper Lee)

The Wednesday Wars (Gary D. Schmidt)

Howard’s End (E.M. Forster)

Honorable Mention:

Pride and Predudice/Persuasion (Jane Austen)

Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine (Gail Honeyman)

A Gentleman in Moscow (Amor Towles)

I Capture the Castle (Dodie Smith)

Special Note:

Jane Eyre (Charlotte Bronte)–I didn’t enjoy this nearly as much as an adult, but when I first read it at 15, it launched me into a love of reading.


My 2021 Reading List

New Year’s resolutions usually evade me, but in late December 2020, I listened to a podcast that inspired me to set a few goals, among which was to read 50 books. I always have a bookmark in something, but am not a particulary fast reader, so this was a lofty goal for me. At least the first half of 2020 afforded me much more reading time, as I spent hours at the kitchen table, somewhat supervising my daughter’s remote learning and in between my own zoom classes. This was the first year that I read with a number goal and while I read more than I ever have in a year, also with more variety than usual, I also read anything that came my way, including several books I finished out of sheer stubborness (not to mention several that I just couldn’t make myself complete). Next year I will refine my list and be more careful in my choices. I read several youth novels, as recommended by my daughters, which were close subsitutes for the days when I actually read out loud to them. I tried some rare genres (for me), like mystery, and actually enjoyed those books (Agatha Christie and Kate Morton). And I’m still coming to terms with the fact that I pretty much hated rereading Emma. I’ll read Pride and Prejudice and Persuasion on repeat for the rest of my life but Emma–never again. Also, as an ever Dickens fan, I don’t know what possessed me to reread Great Expectations, which is my least favorite of his novels. My most favorite books of the year are in bold, and are almost all memoirs, which I find interesting, and a reminder that my preferences change through the phases of my life.

1.Into the Magic Shop (James Doty)

2.The Shack (William Young)

3.The Giver of Stars (jojo moyes)

4.Listen learn and love (Richard Ostler)

5.Talking to Strangers (Malcolm Gladwell)

6.Hard Times (Charles Dickens)

7.The Body (Bill Bryson)

8.Born to Change the World (Brad Wilcox)

9.The Jane Austen Society (Natalie Jenner)

10.The Four Tendencies (Gretchen Rubin)

11.The reason for God (Timothy Keller)

12.The Water Dancer (Ta-Nehisi Coates)

13.I am I am I am (Maggie O’Farrell)

14.Moment of Lift (Melinda Gates)

15.My Lady Jane (Brodi Ashton, Cynthia Hand, Jodi Meadows)

16.The God Who Weeps (Terryl and Fiona Givens)

17.The Downstairs Girl (Stacey Lee)

18.The School of Essential Ingredients (Erica Baumeister)

19.How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk (Adele Faber and Elanine Mazlish)

20.Emma (Jane Austen)

21.The Killer Angels (Michael Shaara)

22.Extraordinary (Miriam Spitzer Franklin)

23.The Penderwicks (Jeanne Birdsall)

24.Insignificant Events in the Life of a Cactus (Dusti Bowling)

25.The Infinite Atonement (Tad R. Callister)

26.Tell Me More (Kelly Corrigan)

27.Spoon Fed (Tim Spector)

28.One for the Murphys (Hunt)

29.Anxious People (Fredrick Backman)

30.Great Expectations (Dickens)

31.Just Mercy (Bryan Stevenson)

32.Ground Zero (Alan Gratz)

33.Spiritual Lives of the Great Composers (Patrick Kavanaugh)

34.The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse (Charlie Mackesy)

35.The Library Book (Susan Orlean)

36.All Creatures Great and Small (James Herriot)

37.The Book of Delights (Ross Gay)

38.Prisoner B-3087 (Alan Gratz)

39.The Bell Jar (Sylvia Plath)

40.Allies (Alan Gratz)

41.Where’d You Go, Bernadette (Maria Semple)

42.The Lake House (Kate Morton)

43.The Mayor of Casterbridge (Thomas Hardy)

44.Crazy Rich Asians (Kevin Kwan)

45.The Four Winds (Kristin Hannah)

46.Turtles All The Way Down (John Green)

47.News of the World (Paulette Jiles)

48.Sara Lost and Found (Virginia Castleman)

49.The Midnight Library (Matthew Haig)

50.The Rose Code (Kate Quinn)

51.Grenade (Alan Gratz)

52.Hour of the Witch (Chris Bohjalian)

53.One Long River of Song (Brian Doyle)

54.Tender is the Night (Fitzgerald)—only made it 1/2, just couldn’t get into it

55.Cold Comfort Farm (Stella Gibbons)

56.The Dutch House (Ann Patchett)

57.The Wednesday Wars (Gary D. Schmidt)

58.And Then There Were None (Agatha Christie)

59.The Song of the Lark (Willa Cather)

60.Molokai (Alan Brennert)

61.All This Time (Daughtry/Lippincott)

62.The Forgotten Garden (Kate Morton)


64.Going There (Katie Couric)

65.Out of My Heart (Sharon Draper)

66.The Council of Animals (Nick McDonell)

67.The Lady’s Handbook for Her Mysterious Illness (Sarah Ramey)

68.The Life if Our Lord (Charles Dickens)


The Spirit in Our Homes

The following text is a message I shared with my church congregation on October 27, 2019. As it pays homage to the name and purpose of this blog, I find it fitting to share it here. Also, many of us are home a whole heap more these days, and it has resonated more than ever with me–I hope it may also touch you in some way.

The Spirit In Our Homes

By, Alyson Pugsley

The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo, published in 2014, has topped best-seller lists and its author has gained a place as one of Time’s 100 most influential people. If you’ve read her book on how to simplify and organize your home, or watched the more recent Netflix show, “Tidying up with Marie Kondo,” you most likely ended up with aesthetically pleasing drawers and black garbage bags full of items that no longer “spark joy” for you. Like millions of people around the world, including me, your home felt free (at least for a time) from the burden of unnecessary material items, unless you went too far and ended up with nothing to wear, nothing to read, and without the documents to complete your tax return!

William Morris, the british textile designer and leader of the Victorian arts and crafts movement, would have been kindred spirits with Kondo. He said, “Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.” I’ve had the privilege to tour his house, Kelmscott Manor, brimming with artistry and craftsmanship, and although I’ll never live in such a stunning place, I recall his words when considering what to bring through my door. 

Advice on what to have in our homes extends even back to biblical times: “Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established: And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches” (Proverbs 24:3-4).

Since I left for college, I have lived in 13 different spaces. I’m guessing that many of you have moved at least once. Recall, if you will, the scene before you as you entered your new home. It was most likely empty, if you arrived before the boxes and furniture. The walls and floors were blank canvases and you were faced with the fresh opportunity of how to fill the void.

The principle of filling our homes with only useful, beautiful and joyful objects is important, but we can easily extend the same practice as we consider the ethereal space within our walls.  Doesn’t Marie Kondo’s advice, “Keep only those things that speak to your heart. Then take the plunge and discard all the rest,” aptly apply to spiritual matters? So what do we bring into our homes, both tangible and intangible, that will grow the fruits of the spirit, which are “love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness,[and] temperance…?” (Galatians 5:22-23). What are the precious and pleasant riches that will fill our rooms? Of course, we put scripture study, prayer, family home evening and other religious observances on our figurative bookshelves. But there is time and space for other wonderful things that bring the spirit into our homes! 

There is a precept I have strived to live ever since I heard it over two decades ago when I was a student of the humanities. The German writer, Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said, “One ought, every day at least, to hear a little song, read a good poem, see a fine picture, and, if it were possible, to speak a few reasonable words.” Goethe’s counsel extends beyond just the fine arts as we consider all that we hear, read, see, and speak (or whatever senses are available to you). I am not here to tell you exactly what to listen to, what to watch and look at, what to read, and what to say. We are all different; we have various interests, talents and sensitivities, but I believe that checking ourselves in these areas will greatly influence the spiritual climate of our homes. 

I heard (on a podcast) recently a statistic that on average we tap, swipe, and click our devices 2,617 times a day. In the late 18th century, Goethe could have never imagined so many pictures, poems, or songs available at one’s fingertips. Sometimes I feel like there is emotional clutter taking up valuable real estate in the spiritual space of my home and when I take time to clean out my virtual world I feel just as satisfied as I do with simplified closets and drawers. 

We have the power to choose what we see, hear, read, and speak. I am inspired by a conversation I heard between brother and sister, Maria and Timothy Shriver. Timothy Shriver is the CEO of special olympics and says that in his job, as he interacts with athletes and volunteers, he has a “front row seat to the best of humanity.” We have a special olympics athlete in our family and I know exactly what he means. Maria and Timothy encourage their listeners to curate the influences that come through their screens and feeds to provide the same view–the best of humanity. I love that! There is so much good and beauty in the world—let’s make space and time for it and then gather it, whether it’s news, podcasts, tunes, photography, literature, or film, in all their varied genres.

In his Discourses Brigham Young preached,  “All that is good, lovely, and praiseworthy belongs to this Church and Kingdom” (p.3). “[I]t is the business of… this Church (Jesus, their Elder Brother, being at their head) to gather up all the truths in the world pertaining to life and salvation, to the Gospel we preach, … to the sciences, and to philosophy, wherever it may be found in every nation, kindred, tongue, and people and bring it to Zion” (p.248). And I would add, bring these to your homes. 

If we are unsure whether what we read, see, hear, and speak brings the spirit, Moroni counsels us in the Book of Mormon to choose “every thing which inviteth to do good, and to persuade to believe in Christ” (Moroni 7:16). Last year I finished a novel with an audible sigh. My daughter, sitting nearby, asked if the book had a happy ending or a sad one. I told her that the best books usually have both. She understood what I meant and referenced a historical novel she had read. I love most the stories and pictures that deepen my understanding and compassion. When I have come to the conclusion of the Book of Mormon, my heart breaks for Moroni, mourning and all alone, and yet he is not despondent. The scriptures are filled with all sorts of darkness and tragedy, but the hope of Christ is triumphant. 

We can gather the good creations of others and we can also make them ourselves. I am no artist but creating in some wholesome way will invite the spirit into a home. This could include writing, drawing, painting, playing an instrument, singing, dancing, woodworking, baking, or simply putting together pieces of a puzzle. And this is true whether done individually or collectively. It is our divine nature to create.

I’d like to share a brief sketch of how these concepts have played out in my own life. On occasion in my childhood, my dad would invite my siblings and me to sit at the kitchen table with him for some art instruction. My dad was an architect in the days when all drafting was done by hand, and he developed a large callus on his middle finger as a result of decades at his trade. He also insisted that we hold our pencils correctly, grasping it gently between forefinger and thumb, resting it against the middle finger. In these drawing lessons, he taught some perspective and line principles, but I think this is where I first felt the peace and enlightenment of art and creation. A couple of years ago, my dad was visiting and spent time at my table drawing and painting with my children. He sketched and water-colored Westminster Abbey. I treasure that picture. More recently, my three daughters gathered with paints and canvases and spent an evening painting together. This isn’t a frequent event but they were unified and friendly as they created side by side. 


My parents were incredibly diligent with family prayer, 7:00am scripture study (even during summer breaks), and family home evenings. While I admire and appreciate their efforts with these practices, other aspects of my homelife drew the spirit powerfully into those walls. My childhood home was filled with art on the walls, books, literature, and encyclopedias (I still remember the 1985 Encyclopedia set arriving in boxes and how beautiful the gilded pages looked–I loved looking through the pages and learning of other cultures and places). The books weren’t forced upon me but accessible. During difficult times in my youth, I came to love the word of God, and was also enveloped at home in knowledge and beauty. I’ll cite just one example. 

My parents took me to see the musical Les Miserables when I was 14 and that amazing display encouraged me to read the abridged version of Victor Hugo’s novel the same year. 10 years later, I felt brave enough to read the book in its entirety; it was an unforgettable journey that I took while waiting for the birth of my first baby. Throughout my life, literature and other art has often been the medium through which the atonement of Jesus Christ has healed and sustained me through my challenges. 

In more recent years, some of the best conversations I’ve had with my daughters have happened as we’ve read together. Elder Uchtdorf based his latest conference talk on the Hobbit and also quoted Dumbledore so I feel comfortable sharing that reading the Harry Potter books aloud at home has sparked meaningful conversations about heros, friendships, identity, love, forgiveness, and redemption. As long as I’m on the topic of fantasy, three months ago I wrote an entry in my journal about my daughter Jane, for whom reading is a great challenge, 

Jane came to me mid-morning and asked me to read The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe to her. It has been a great while since she has asked me to read anything to her, and nothing ever of that quality. She sat for 15 minutes of a novel and we discussed as we went! Granted, she knows the characters and plot from the film, but it gave me such hope that I might now share this book with all 3 of my girls. (July 17, 2019)

Now Jane hasn’t made it much past chapter two but perhaps one day we might discuss the symbols in that book that typify Christ.

The 13th Article of Faith was my favorite as a child, for no other reason than I was proud to be able to recite it, as it is the longest. Now I am fond of it for another reason. Every sentence of the Articles of Faith begins with “we believe,” except the last, which reads, “If there is anything virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy, we seek after these things.” After declaring our beliefs, Joseph Smith closes with a call to action. “If” we believe all of those things “then” we go about seeking good!  

I often fall short on these lofty standards I’ve outlined for inviting and keeping the spirit in our homes. But I have also learned from experience that if we fill our shelves with uplifting books, our feeds with encouraging stories; if we stock our screens with inspiring pictures and lace our walls with kind words, the Holy Ghost and the love of God will thrive in our homes.



Lady Jane Grey and Gratitude


The Execution of Lady Jane Grey, an oil painting by Paul Delaroche completed in 1833, hangs in prominence in the National Gallery in London. Last April I visited the gallery after a significant absence from London, and without a wrong turn, found my way directly to this painting, in fact, I’m nearly confident I could have found it blindfolded. And as I sat facing Jane, the years melted away and I was 19 again, seeing her for the first time. In 1998 I was mildly obsessed with the story of Lady Jane, largely due to the film starring Helena Bonham Carter and Cary Elwes (in all their youthful glory). My older sister had introduced me to the movie after her return from the same study abroad program I was now attending. I visited the block at the Tower where she was beheaded and saw her name etched in a prison cell. The tragedy and passion of the story was perfect for a teenage student of the arts! However, my fondness for this painting now flows from another experience.

Upon returning from London in ‘98, I had a letter waiting for me. A fellow student had stayed a few days longer in London and told me she was writing to me as she sat in the national gallery, in front of the Execution of Lady Jane Grey. Apparently I had told her where to find it and recommend that she spend some time there. She proceeded to recount how the past four months had been challenging and lonely for her and thanked me for being her friend. Now, I am not patting myself on the back at all—I couldn’t recall any great, heroic humanity on my part. The past four months had been incredible for me, but also challenging and sometimes lonely. Her gratitude reminded me the power of simply being kind and including others. 

The Execution of Lady Jane Grey lost favor with viewers in the 20th century and was boxed up. In 1975 it made its way back into the light and I’m thrilled that it did; this painting facilitated friendship and gratitude. It now hangs to remind me, with Jane’s resplendent dress amid a despondent scene, that art can connect us in a profound way to our fellow human beings. 


Tess of the D’Urbervilles

Two weeks ago I turned the last page of Tess of the D’Urbervilles on a flight home from England. It wasn’t my first reading of the novel, but it had been long enough that it felt new in so many aspects. Completing a good book is often followed by a brief mourning period, and the loss felt particularly poignant this time, nevertheless the time has come for closure with Tess and hopefully these thoughts will help me mend my figurative broken heart.

Literature connects me to the physical world, and this is truest for England. I associate so many experiences there with authors and each region evokes certain poetry or novels. I had six months to plan how I would spend my 8 days and as the time drew nearer, I dreaded narrowing down where we would roam. I have called that island home during two different periods of my life and I love nearly the whole of it. Instead of maps and travel guides, I asked myself what I was in the mood to read; Thomas Hardy was my pick and so Steve and I spent the first four days in “Wessex,” particularly the county of Dorset, where Hardy was born and did much of his important work. I read Tess of the D’Urbervilles in the weeks leading up to my journey, in the evenings at our bed and breakfasts (while lambs bleated and cows mooed outdoors), and sometimes in the car, if I wasn’t soaking in the landscape that Hardy paints so wonderfully in his novels, “Behind him the hills are open, the sun blazes down upon fields so large as to give an unenclosed character to the landscape, the lanes are white, the hedges low and plashed, the atmosphere colourless.” (12)


This book became deep and real to me because I intentionally made it so. Each cow that grazed in the wold bore Tess’s shadow leaning against its side as she milked. Every footpath and lane whispered of her long walks to seek refuge. Steve and I spent a morning at Max’s gate, Hardy’s adult home, where we were greeted in nearly every room by Hardy enthusiasts. The only empty room, however, was the very room where he penned Tess, and it felt complete to sit where he created such beauty and made literary history. After that, we walked to Stinsford church, where his heart is buried, and from there to his birthplace (which we had toured years earlier). All of this we did while, “It was yet too early in the year for much colour to appear in the gardens and foliage; the so-called spring was but winter overlaid with a thin coat of greenness, and it was of a parcel with his expectations.” (372). Of course, such a dynamic experience cannot accompany every book and poem I read, but these few days further bound me to both a land I love with my whole heart and to the language that from there emerged.

Tess is many different women throughout the story and I hope I can keep part of each with me. She is real in her hurt, sadness, and anger, but I love the sacrifice and selflessness she shows at the book’s close. Perhaps my favorite thing about her is the optimism that creeps back after hardship, like when she arrives at the dairy. “Her hopes mingled with the sunshine in an ideal photosphere which surrounded her as she bounded along against the soft south wind. She heard a pleasant voice in every breeze, and in every bird’s note seemed to lurk a joy.” (103).

And so Tess of the D’Urbervilles returns to the shelf and I must return to my everyday life, taking Hardy’s advice with me that, “Every man must work as he could best work, and in the method towards which he felt impelled by the Spirit.” (312). Many good books still deserve my attention and England will always be there waiting.



Peace Like a River

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What a gift it was, on the eve before my 38th birthday, to finish this novel–to turn out the lights with Lief Enger’s art in my soul. I’ve had this book on my reading list for years and I can’t remember from whom the recommendation came. The language from the beginning is masterful; it offers the sort of read where I don’t want to miss a word. The characters are round and rich. Fascinating for me are the countless references Rueben makes to his inadequate storytelling abilities compared to Swede’s, when he, in fact, is weaving the masterpiece of words. The plot is filled with tragedy and yet laced with efficient grace and joy. The way he writes of God and miracles is touching yet unsentimental. The final passage illustrates this wonderfully:

Is there a single person on whom I can press belief?

No sir.

All I can do is say, Here’s how it went. Here’s what I saw.

I’ve been there and am going back.

Make of it what you will.

Here I pass on the recommendation that was years ago given to me by my mystery friend or acquaintance; whoever you are, thank you.

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Art and Suffering

A few months ago, while driving south on the 101 to visit my sister, I witnessed a scene that still haunts me. In the distance I saw in the middle of the highway what looked to be a rabbit running, except the rabbit wasn’t getting anywhere. As our car approached, the reason for the rabbit’s static situation became clear–the lower half of its body had been flattened by a passing vehicle while its upper half remained intact and struggling. My heart broke for this helpless creature; hope for survival was futile and I wished that its pain would be brief.

Reflecting on the tragic rabbit, my thoughts turn to one of the pillars of Buddhism, which states that “life is suffering.” I realize this English translation falls terribly short of the rich meaning enveloped in that statement, and I am not Buddhist, but I find universal truth in the teaching. Or, as Wesley tells Buttercup in The Princess Bride, “Life is pain, highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something.” Here I would like to claim that “art is suffering,” or “in art there is suffering.”

Nearly half my lifetime ago, I visited the Louvre in Paris and among many works there, “The Tomb of Atala” by Girodet touched me.

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In this captured moment of intense grief, there is beauty and hope. The artist balances emotions of pain and passion with all the skills of his trade: a classical composition, contrast of light and dark, employment of Christian symbols, soft brush strokes and more. Like this painting, many faith traditions, including my own of Christianity, offer meaning and hope amid death and suffering.

Literature, performing and visual arts are laden with suffering and I submit that to some degree the theme is essential for a successful piece. A few years ago I read several novels in a row that ended with a tragic death and I questioned my choice of books. Then I reflected that many of the classics include death, at least at some point in the work; and if not death, some other tragedy. In fact, the very first grade level definition of plot teaches that a story must have a beginning, a middle (which is the “problem”) and an end (the “solution”). Thankfully, fine works of art become increasingly more nuanced and layered than this, but the basic definition usually stands. I recall concluding both “The Fault in Our Stars” and “The Kite Runner” through exhausted, cried-out eyes and those painful reads were cathartic. The challenges one faces through art, though not their own, have the power to deepen character and understanding. I am also an advocate for the arts that merely entertain and brighten, but art containing tragedy is healing through co-suffering.

This idea of co-suffering has been on my mind lately, prompted by a two-part podcast: https://player.fm/series/mormon-matters-1169768/339-mercy-and-the-atonement-part-1.

I was discussing the idea of “mourning with those that mourn” with my seven year old daughter. I explained that this means to feel sad with someone who is sad. She said, “That’s a dumb idea–it’s just spreading sadness.” My point to her was that it’s “sharing sadness” and paradoxically, the sadness is not just spread, but dissipated. Art has power, just like a dear friend, to diffuse pain by inviting us to share in the struggle. The arts invite us in, widen our scope and bind us to human experience.

In a mindfulness practice, I recently learned about a concept known as “negativity bias.” The short of it is that negative thoughts and experiences stick to us like Velcro, while the positive ones slip off like Teflon. Here is an explanation as to why: https://www.rickhanson.net/how-your-brain-makes-you-easily-intimidated/.

I have chronic pain that manifests itself in different ways and in varying degrees over time. The last few months have prompted some deep reflection and I’ve noticed that my attitude towards pain has matured over the last decade. Of course, my strongest human instinct is to just wish the pain away, but I can now more clearly see the good that laces hard times. I have learned a greater degree of patience, I treasure the gift of seeking help and answers (not just the help and answers themselves), and I have developed meaningful relationships through shared experience. One such relationship is with a physical therapist, with whom I was fortunate enough to work in two states. We recently shared a phone conversation that prompted much needed spiritual and physical healing (I nickname her the “metaphysical therapist).

So what stays with us from a particular work of art or a life experience? Is it the pain, the grief, the suffering, or is it the light, joy and beauty woven throughout? My submission is that it has to be both; awareness and gratitude must exist for the entirety or meaning is lost.


My 2016 Reading List

“There is lovely to feel a book, a good book, firm in the hand, for its fatness holds rich promise, and you are hot inside to think of good hours to come,” (Richard Llewellyn, How Green Was My Valley)

Reading a good classic work of fiction takes a significant amount of self investment, but like most worthy efforts in life, it yields equal (or greater) reward. Finishing one such novel demands a restorative period and after I completed Hardy’s Far from the Madding Crowd I turned to various literary genres. The last few months have constituted one of the most varied and enjoyable reading seasons of my life. My new situation in California–living in a smaller home and renting, as well as the other freedoms of time that often come with a move, have afforded me more reading time than I’ve had since moving to England in 2004. For two years I often had no car and a child that napped five hours a day. Many of the following books fell into my lap, especially the young adult novels–it’s an exciting stage when I can take recommendations from my 12 year old daughter. As this steady stream of companions comes to a close, I feel ready for one of my nineteenth century friends again, perhaps Dickens. It’s been over a decade since I read David Copperfield; long enough to make it interesting again and brief enough to recall my affection for it.  This list is merely a record for myself, but I would enthusiastically endorse any book included to my family, friends, or to a perfect stranger!

Boys in the Boat by Daniel James Brown

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

A String in the Harp by Nancy Bond

Always Hungry by David Ludwig

Planted by Patrick Mason

Quiet by Susan Cain

Grace is not God’s Backup Plan by Adam Miller

The Fault in our Stars by John Green

Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert

The Light Between Oceans by M.L. Stedman

The Land of Stories by Chris Colfer (currently on book 3, reading aloud to my daughter)

How Green was my Valley by Richard Llewellyn (for the third time–an all time favorite)

Out of my Mind by Sharon Draper

The Invention of Wings by Sue Monk Kidd

Partially read:

Authoring the Old Testament by David Bokovoy

Jesus the Christ by James Talmage

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The Waking

The Waking
By Theodore Roethke
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I feel my fate in what I cannot fear.
I learn by going where I have to go.

We think by feeling. What is there to know?
I hear my being dance from ear to ear.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.

Of those so close beside me, which are you?
God bless the Ground! I shall walk softly there,
And learn by going where I have to go.

Light takes the Tree; but who can tell us how?
The lowly worm climbs up a winding stair;
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.

Great Nature has another thing to do
To you and me; so take the lively air,
And, lovely, learn by going where to go.

This shaking keeps me steady. I should know.
What falls away is always. And is near.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I learn by going where I have to go.

Tonight I heard my voice teacher and friend, Lindsey Partridge, sing this song as a gift to her students at their recital (at which I did not perform!). The words and music moved me. I could spend many hours trying to analyze this poem, but because there is no impending assignment to do so, I won’t disturb the wordless comprehension I felt. Beautiful!


On Hidden Gifts and the Brandenburg Concertos

I sang a solo on Tuesday, May 24 2016. The last time I sang alone, besides to my children at bedtime, was 20 years ago when I tried out for a high school choir. Singing with a choir is comforting, but singing alone is one of my greatest fears! As I anticipated and dreaded these few minutes, I recalled how I came to be here in the first place.

A few months ago, near a cozy living room fire and with the most delicious hot chocolate nestled between my hands, I agreed to private voice lessons. Some women from my church had gathered for “girl time” and I spent much of the evening getting to know Lindsey Partridge. I was fascinated to learn about her career teaching music and her eight years singing with the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. I shared with her my love for music and my feelings of inadequacy about my own voice. There was no alcohol involved, though it was after 10:00 pm (at which time my judgment is definitely clouded and my inhibitions down), and I committed to one private voice lesson.

The day of the lesson arrived and she boosted my confidence enough for me to agree to another, and another and so on until it came time for the group lesson (the time and place afore mentioned for my solo). During the past two months of Lindsey’s instruction, I’ve gained surety of my ability and sang with a church choir that she directed. My former high range is slowly returning and I am developing an even greater admiration for the truly great and talented singers–I wrongly assumed that most of it was innate talent and never appreciated the incredible amount of work that also contributed to their voices!

On Tuesday, before the group lesson, I was ready to tell her this was my last time. Challenging my voice during lessons is physically and emotionally exhausting. I always sound better practicing my piece at home than I do with Lindsey, so I was sure that in front of even more people it would be a disaster! But by some act of grace it didn’t go that badly! Sure, I’m not planning any public concerts, but I feel like I overcame a huge obstacle that day. The other students were kind and constructive in their review, which really helped. I have awesome opportunity to work with a fine musician, so I suppose I’ll carry on with the lessons.

Johann Sebastian Bach’s music has stirred my soul since my first introduction from Mrs. Hewlett in my high school Humanities class. I came to love all things baroque–the sculpture, the architecture and definitely the music. Bach’s Brandenburg Concerto’s are now widely accepted as some of the greatest music of this period. I don’t understand the technicalities of a concerto grosso; I just know I enjoy listening to them! Bach sent his six concertos to the Margrave of Brandenburg (looking to him as a possible employer and patron)  with the following dedication, dated March 24, 1721:
As I had the good fortune a few years ago to be heard by Your Royal Highness, at Your Highness’s commands, and as I noticed then that Your Highness took some pleasure in the little talents which Heaven has given me for Music, and as in taking Leave of Your Royal Highness, Your Highness designed to honour me with the command to send Your Highness some pieces of my Composition: I have in accordance with Your Highness’s most gracious orders taken the liberty of rendering my most humble duty to Your Royal Highness with the present Concertos, which I have adapted to several instruments; begging Your Highness most humbly not to judge their imperfection with the rigor of that discriminating and sensitive taste, which everyone knows Him to have for musical works, but rather to take into benign Consideration the profound respect and the most humble obedience which I thus attempt to show Him.http://www.baroquecds.com/770Web.html

Though I was familiar with the Brandenburg concertos, several months ago while listening to the radio, I was surprised to learn that they had been lost to the world for over a century. The music was sold upon the Margrave’s death in 1734 for the equivalent today of $24 and then left in the archives of the Brandenburg library until it was rediscovered by Siegfried Wilhelm Dehn in 1849.

Now I realize I take generous liberties in comparing the untapped abilities of my voice to Bach’s buried masterpieces but both lead me to the biblical parable of the talents. The parable in its entirety is found in Matthew 25:14-30, but here is the gist: a certain man gave his servants talents: five to one, two to another, and to the last he gave one. The first two doubled their talents; however the last, afraid to lose the one he had, buried it in the ground. The master took the one buried talent and gave it to the servant with ten. The powerful message in this parable is that God doesn’t compare our talents with others (and neither should we); he cares only that we use and multiply the talents he’s given us.

In her book, The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown offers powerful insight into our fears, feelings of inadequacies and the curse of comparing our gifts and talents to those of others. She says that “When we cultivate those gifts and share them with the world, we create a sense of meaning and purpose in our lives” (p. 112). And when we choose not to develop our talents, “we pay for it with our emotional and physical well-being….We feel disconnected and weighed down by feelings of emptiness, frustration, resentment, shame, disappointment, fear, and even grief” (p.112). The former option has much greater appeal. A friend sent me Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic for my birthday and it wonderfully explores the need every person has to live creatively and develop the gifts we divinely carry. It is a great motivator for those, like me, who often have strokes of genius and great ideas, but let them disappear out of fear or laziness.

Bach recognized that whatever talent he had came from God and he acknowledged his shortcomings, but presented his beautiful music regardless. Thankfully someone found the dusty scrolls of his concertos and presented them to the world. My own efforts at dusting off the gifts I possess will never be impactful like Bach’s, but they matter nevertheless. So last week as I presented my solo voice to small room of people, I made my own humble offering to the world of music, which deep down for me had just as much, if not more, to do with cultivating creativity and connecting with the divine.

Here’s a little listening pleasure (also, I like the ad before it–close to my heart, and not far off my theme today!).