“One ought, every day at least, to hear a little song, read a good poem, see a fine picture, and, if it were possible to speak a few reasonable words.” –Goethe

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Peace Like a River

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What a gift it was, on the eve before my 38th birthday, to finish this novel–to turn out the lights with Lief Enger’s art in my soul. I’ve had this book on my reading list for years and I can’t remember from whom the recommendation came. The language from the beginning is masterful; it offers the sort of read where I don’t want to miss a word. The characters are round and rich. Fascinating for me are the countless references Rueben makes to his inadequate storytelling abilities compared to Swede’s, when he, in fact, is weaving the masterpiece of words. The plot is filled with tragedy and yet laced with efficient grace and joy. The way he writes of God and miracles is touching yet unsentimental. The final passage illustrates this wonderfully:

Is there a single person on whom I can press belief?

No sir.

All I can do is say, Here’s how it went. Here’s what I saw.

I’ve been there and am going back.

Make of it what you will.

Here I pass on the recommendation that was years ago given to me by my mystery friend or acquaintance; whoever you are, thank you.


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Art and Suffering

A few months ago, while driving south on the 101 to visit my sister, I witnessed a scene that still haunts me. In the distance I saw in the middle of the highway what looked to be a rabbit running, except the rabbit wasn’t getting anywhere. As our car approached, the reason for the rabbit’s static situation became clear–the lower half of its body had been flattened by a passing vehicle while its upper half remained intact and struggling. My heart broke for this helpless creature; hope for survival was futile and I wished that its pain would be brief.

Reflecting on the tragic rabbit, my thoughts turn to one of the pillars of Buddhism, which states that “life is suffering.” I realize this English translation falls terribly short of the rich meaning enveloped in that statement, and I am not Buddhist, but I find universal truth in the teaching. Or, as Wesley tells Buttercup in The Princess Bride, “Life is pain, highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something.” Here I would like to claim that “art is suffering,” or “in art there is suffering.”

Nearly half my lifetime ago, I visited the Louvre in Paris and among many works there, “The Tomb of Atala” by Girodet touched me.

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In this captured moment of intense grief, there is beauty and hope. The artist balances emotions of pain and passion with all the skills of his trade: a classical composition, contrast of light and dark, employment of Christian symbols, soft brush strokes and more. Like this painting, many faith traditions, including my own of Christianity, offer meaning and hope amid death and suffering.

Literature, performing and visual arts are laden with suffering and I submit that to some degree the theme is essential for a successful piece. A few years ago I read several novels in a row that ended with a tragic death and I questioned my choice of books. Then I reflected that many of the classics include death, at least at some point in the work; and if not death, some other tragedy. In fact, the very first grade level definition of plot teaches that a story must have a beginning, a middle (which is the “problem”) and an end (the “solution”). Thankfully, fine works of art become increasingly more nuanced and layered than this, but the basic definition usually stands. I recall concluding both “The Fault in Our Stars” and “The Kite Runner” through exhausted, cried-out eyes and those painful reads were cathartic. The challenges one faces through art, though not their own, have the power to deepen character and understanding. I am also an advocate for the arts that merely entertain and brighten, but art containing tragedy is healing through co-suffering.

This idea of co-suffering has been on my mind lately, prompted by a two-part podcast: https://player.fm/series/mormon-matters-1169768/339-mercy-and-the-atonement-part-1.

I was discussing the idea of “mourning with those that mourn” with my seven year old daughter. I explained that this means to feel sad with someone who is sad. She said, “That’s a dumb idea–it’s just spreading sadness.” My point to her was that it’s “sharing sadness” and paradoxically, the sadness is not just spread, but dissipated. Art has power, just like a dear friend, to diffuse pain by inviting us to share in the struggle. The arts invite us in, widen our scope and bind us to human experience.

In a mindfulness practice, I recently learned about a concept known as “negativity bias.” The short of it is that negative thoughts and experiences stick to us like Velcro, while the positive ones slip off like Teflon. Here is an explanation as to why: https://www.rickhanson.net/how-your-brain-makes-you-easily-intimidated/.

I have chronic pain that manifests itself in different ways and in varying degrees over time. The last few months have prompted some deep reflection and I’ve noticed that my attitude towards pain has matured over the last decade. Of course, my strongest human instinct is to just wish the pain away, but I can now more clearly see the good that laces hard times. I have learned a greater degree of patience, I treasure the gift of seeking help and answers (not just the help and answers themselves), and I have developed meaningful relationships through shared experience. One such relationship is with a physical therapist, with whom I was fortunate enough to work in two states. We recently shared a phone conversation that prompted much needed spiritual and physical healing (I nickname her the “metaphysical therapist).

So what stays with us from a particular work of art or a life experience? Is it the pain, the grief, the suffering, or is it the light, joy and beauty woven throughout? My submission is that it has to be both; awareness and gratitude must exist for the entirety or meaning is lost.

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My 2016 Reading List

“There is lovely to feel a book, a good book, firm in the hand, for its fatness holds rich promise, and you are hot inside to think of good hours to come,” (Richard Llewellyn, How Green Was My Valley)

Reading a good classic work of fiction takes a significant amount of self investment, but like most worthy efforts in life, it yields equal (or greater) reward. Finishing one such novel demands a restorative period and after I completed Hardy’s Far from the Madding Crowd I turned to various literary genres. The last few months have constituted one of the most varied and enjoyable reading seasons of my life. My new situation in California–living in a smaller home and renting, as well as the other freedoms of time that often come with a move, have afforded me more reading time than I’ve had since moving to England in 2004. For two years I often had no car and a child that napped five hours a day. Many of the following books fell into my lap, especially the young adult novels–it’s an exciting stage when I can take recommendations from my 12 year old daughter. As this steady stream of companions comes to a close, I feel ready for one of my nineteenth century friends again, perhaps Dickens. It’s been over a decade since I read David Copperfield; long enough to make it interesting again and brief enough to recall my affection for it.  This list is merely a record for myself, but I would enthusiastically endorse any book included to my family, friends, or to a perfect stranger!

Boys in the Boat by Daniel James Brown

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

A String in the Harp by Nancy Bond

Always Hungry by David Ludwig

Planted by Patrick Mason

Quiet by Susan Cain

Grace is not God’s Backup Plan by Adam Miller

The Fault in our Stars by John Green

Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert

The Light Between Oceans by M.L. Stedman

The Land of Stories by Chris Colfer (currently on book 3, reading aloud to my daughter)

How Green was my Valley by Richard Llewellyn (for the third time–an all time favorite)

Out of my Mind by Sharon Draper

The Invention of Wings by Sue Monk Kidd

Partially read:

Authoring the Old Testament by David Bokovoy

Jesus the Christ by James Talmage

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The Waking

The Waking
By Theodore Roethke
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I feel my fate in what I cannot fear.
I learn by going where I have to go.

We think by feeling. What is there to know?
I hear my being dance from ear to ear.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.

Of those so close beside me, which are you?
God bless the Ground! I shall walk softly there,
And learn by going where I have to go.

Light takes the Tree; but who can tell us how?
The lowly worm climbs up a winding stair;
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.

Great Nature has another thing to do
To you and me; so take the lively air,
And, lovely, learn by going where to go.

This shaking keeps me steady. I should know.
What falls away is always. And is near.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I learn by going where I have to go.

Tonight I heard my voice teacher and friend, Lindsey Partridge, sing this song as a gift to her students at their recital (at which I did not perform!). The words and music moved me. I could spend many hours trying to analyze this poem, but because there is no impending assignment to do so, I won’t disturb the wordless comprehension I felt. Beautiful!


On Hidden Gifts and the Brandenburg Concertos

I sang a solo on Tuesday, May 24 2016. The last time I sang alone, besides to my children at bedtime, was 20 years ago when I tried out for a high school choir. Singing with a choir is comforting, but singing alone is one of my greatest fears! As I anticipated and dreaded these few minutes, I recalled how I came to be here in the first place.

A few months ago, near a cozy living room fire and with the most delicious hot chocolate nestled between my hands, I agreed to private voice lessons. Some women from my church had gathered for “girl time” and I spent much of the evening getting to know Lindsey Partridge. I was fascinated to learn about her career teaching music and her eight years singing with the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. I shared with her my love for music and my feelings of inadequacy about my own voice. There was no alcohol involved, though it was after 10:00 pm (at which time my judgment is definitely clouded and my inhibitions down), and I committed to one private voice lesson.

The day of the lesson arrived and she boosted my confidence enough for me to agree to another, and another and so on until it came time for the group lesson (the time and place afore mentioned for my solo). During the past two months of Lindsey’s instruction, I’ve gained surety of my ability and sang with a church choir that she directed. My former high range is slowly returning and I am developing an even greater admiration for the truly great and talented singers–I wrongly assumed that most of it was innate talent and never appreciated the incredible amount of work that also contributed to their voices!

On Tuesday, before the group lesson, I was ready to tell her this was my last time. Challenging my voice during lessons is physically and emotionally exhausting. I always sound better practicing my piece at home than I do with Lindsey, so I was sure that in front of even more people it would be a disaster! But by some act of grace it didn’t go that badly! Sure, I’m not planning any public concerts, but I feel like I overcame a huge obstacle that day. The other students were kind and constructive in their review, which really helped. I have awesome opportunity to work with a fine musician, so I suppose I’ll carry on with the lessons.

Johann Sebastian Bach’s music has stirred my soul since my first introduction from Mrs. Hewlett in my high school Humanities class. I came to love all things baroque–the sculpture, the architecture and definitely the music. Bach’s Brandenburg Concerto’s are now widely accepted as some of the greatest music of this period. I don’t understand the technicalities of a concerto grosso; I just know I enjoy listening to them! Bach sent his six concertos to the Margrave of Brandenburg (looking to him as a possible employer and patron)  with the following dedication, dated March 24, 1721:
As I had the good fortune a few years ago to be heard by Your Royal Highness, at Your Highness’s commands, and as I noticed then that Your Highness took some pleasure in the little talents which Heaven has given me for Music, and as in taking Leave of Your Royal Highness, Your Highness designed to honour me with the command to send Your Highness some pieces of my Composition: I have in accordance with Your Highness’s most gracious orders taken the liberty of rendering my most humble duty to Your Royal Highness with the present Concertos, which I have adapted to several instruments; begging Your Highness most humbly not to judge their imperfection with the rigor of that discriminating and sensitive taste, which everyone knows Him to have for musical works, but rather to take into benign Consideration the profound respect and the most humble obedience which I thus attempt to show Him.http://www.baroquecds.com/770Web.html

Though I was familiar with the Brandenburg concertos, several months ago while listening to the radio, I was surprised to learn that they had been lost to the world for over a century. The music was sold upon the Margrave’s death in 1734 for the equivalent today of $24 and then left in the archives of the Brandenburg library until it was rediscovered by Siegfried Wilhelm Dehn in 1849.

Now I realize I take generous liberties in comparing the untapped abilities of my voice to Bach’s buried masterpieces but both lead me to the biblical parable of the talents. The parable in its entirety is found in Matthew 25:14-30, but here is the gist: a certain man gave his servants talents. Five to one, two to another, and to the last he gave one. The first two doubled their talents; however the last, afraid to lose the one he had, buried it in the ground. The master took the one buried talent and gave it to the servant with ten. The powerful message in this parable is that God doesn’t compare our talents with others (and neither should we); he cares only that we use and multiply the talents he’s given us.

In her book, The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown offers powerful insight into our fears, feelings of inadequacies and the curse of comparing our gifts and talents to those of others. She says that “When we cultivate those gifts and share them with the world, we create a sense of meaning and purpose in our lives” (p. 112). And when we choose not to develop our talents, “we pay for it with our emotional and physical well-being….We feel disconnected and weighed down by feelings of emptiness, frustration, resentment, shame, disappointment, fear, and even grief” (p.112). The former option has much greater appeal. A friend sent me Elizabeth Gilbert’s book Big Magic for my birthday and it wonderfully explores the need every person has to live creatively and develop the gifts we divinely carry. It is a great motivator for those, like me, who often have strokes of genius and great ideas, but let them disappear out of fear or laziness.

Bach recognized that whatever talent he had came from God and he acknowledged his shortcomings, but presented his beautiful music regardless. Thankfully someone found the dusty scrolls of his concertos and presented them to the world. My own efforts at dusting off the gifts I possess will never be impactful like Bach’s, but they matter nevertheless. So last week as I presented my solo voice to small room of people, I made my own humble offering to the world of music, which deep down for me had just as much, if not more, to do with cultivating creativity and connecting with the divine.

Here’s a little listening pleasure (also, I like the ad before it–close to my heart, and not far off my theme today!).

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Far from the Madding Crowd

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Reading the last lines of a great book is like moving and I’ve recently done both. Closing the book is a little painful; I know it’s still there and I may revisit the pages, but my first experience with it will ever be unrivaled. With many of the classics I begin slowly as I familiarize myself with the author’s style and language, then I have to hold myself back as I attempt to draw out the read as long as possible. I often make friends the same way–slowly at first, subsequently finding myself resistant to say goodbye and move on. I feel a loyalty to both fine literature and to people–once loved, they always have a place in my heart, whether or not we see each other again.

Several months ago I saw the 2015 film version of Thomas Hardy’s Far from the Madding Crowd and was captivated. Unlike some of Hardy’s love triangles, this story has more of a love pyramid–one woman, three men. Soon after that, my friend, Darci (speaking of dear, missed friends!), invited me to Changing Hands bookstore in Tempe, where I purchased the novel. We spent a lovely morning perusing used and new books of all genres. We split up for an hour or so, then met at a table to share our finds and explore our common, and uncommon, interests. Some may argue that seeing the film version can spoil the book, but if both are done well, I find the film actually prepares me for the book. With long Dickens novels it helps me to keep the plethora of characters straight. Sure, I don’t conjure up the characters myself but who wouldn’t want Matthias Schoenaerts as Gabriel Oak running through their head! And I’m not just being superficial–he does an amazing job of adding to Hardy’s strong, yet suppressed, character. After an extremely slow start (I think it took me a month to read the first 20 pages), I finished the book on Tuesday and can’t bring myself to read anything else–this is my post book mourning phase. I’ll probably dabble in a little nonfiction until I’m ready to make a new friend, I mean read another novel.

To comfort my loss I watched the film again last night and I loved comparing the two back to back. The film truly captures Hardy’s pastoral scenes of Dorset and the character tensions. Of course the story is changed in some minor places, but I think those changes add to the success of the film–like when Troy and Fanny go to the wrong churches. The book, on the other hand, developed Boldwood’s character more deeply and acquainted me better with Joseph Poorgrass, Coggan and Laban Tall. The conversations between these farm laborers is reminiscent of Shakespeare, and the bands he often employs to bring insight through comic relief. I was disappointed that the wedding was not the conclusion of the film, as I found it incredibly charming and uplifting in the book.

Thankfully both pen and screen versions have a joyful (after much suffering) ending, because with Thomas Hardy, one can never be sure!


Girl at the Mirror by Norman Rockwell


Surrounded recently by decades of Norman Rockwell’s Saturday Evening Post covers, I was most struck by this March 6, 1954 one. My oldest daughter turned 12 yesterday and as she stood next to me at the exhibit, I naturally drew some parallels. This young lady in the picture finds herself caught somewhere between childhood and teen; her expression is a beautiful combination of confusion and exploration.  Her doll is cast aside and she has in her lap the portrait of a famous actress of the time, Jane Russell. The artist later regretted including the magazine, as he was criticized for showing a Hollywood star as a child role model.

I see my own daughter compare her features to some ideal and it breaks my heart to see her focus on what she thinks are “flaws.” It’s nothing major now, but as a female I know the struggle will continue and probably deepen. My hope is that her self worth will come more from her qualities and characteristics that matter most–hopefully I can radiate that message to her through my own attitude and confidence!